How can I be me without losing you or you be you without losing me?
One of our greatest needs is to be connected in relationships. We all have a desire to be known for who we truly are, warts and all. How many times have you sacrificed yourself or concentrated on only expressing yourself in relationship and yet found yourself less known, less bonded and lost in a relationship? We all struggle to find the balance of how to be “me” and how to be “we”. Yet, if we are called to be connected in relationship, how do we maintain our own individuality or even yet, keep from sabotaging a relationship by with making ourselves more important than the “we” of relationship? Relationships and understanding our own selves is complicated, no doubt, but have you ever taken the time to look at what are your personal boundaries? I mean really take the time to examine who you are, who you are not and set boundaries to maintain them or soften them so that you can bond with others. This is something that is important for all of us to do. We all as children learned or didn’t learn how to bond and set boundaries in our family. Without looking at those patterns and intentionally making a change, these painful patterns will continue to arise in our relationships. We must take responsibility for what is ours in relationships and let go of that which is not. We are all responsible for our own feelings, beliefs, behaviors, choice/ limits, and values. Taking ownership of these is crucial to know the “me” of relationship so that we can choose to be ”me” and yet open our hearts to peer into the life of another and bond to make the “we” that we all so desparately need.
How can I be me without losing you or you be you without losing me?
ReplyDeleteOne of our greatest needs is to be connected in relationships. We all have a desire to be known for who we truly are, warts and all. How many times have you sacrificed yourself or concentrated on only expressing yourself in relationship and yet found yourself less known, less bonded and lost in a relationship? We all struggle to find the balance of how to be “me” and how to be “we”. Yet, if we are called to be connected in relationship, how do we maintain our own individuality or even yet, keep from sabotaging a relationship by with making ourselves more important than the “we” of relationship? Relationships and understanding our own selves is complicated, no doubt, but have you ever taken the time to look at what are your personal boundaries? I mean really take the time to examine who you are, who you are not and set boundaries to maintain them or soften them so that you can bond with others. This is something that is important for all of us to do. We all as children learned or didn’t learn how to bond and set boundaries in our family. Without looking at those patterns and intentionally making a change, these painful patterns will continue to arise in our relationships. We must take responsibility for what is ours in relationships and let go of that which is not. We are all responsible for our own feelings, beliefs, behaviors, choice/ limits, and values. Taking ownership of these is crucial to know the “me” of relationship so that we can choose to be ”me” and yet open our hearts to peer into the life of another and bond to make the “we” that we all so desparately need.